1) They do worry about penis size, regardless of what people think. Some men feel they may just not measure up. To give you an idea how significant this issue is among men I read an article some time ago and it asked the question: Why don’t you see full nude shots of leading men’s privates in movies as you do women’s? In the article it stated that big stars will not because they have this fear that if they don’t measure up to what their fans feel is adequate in the package department it could hurt their box office appeal for future movies. See, it’s not only regular guys whom suffer from this thought.
2) Most of them at one time or another has slept with either a girlfriends sister (that’s bad) cousin (not too bad), best friend (oops!) or distant friend (sorry).
3) Sex to them is not nearly as important in a relationship as women think. Is it necessary, yes. Is it mandatory, no. Unfortunately, as the relationship ages they tend to think of it as a chore more than anything else. For whatever reason some women feel that they are walking erections, this is just not true. However, #2 also gives you reason to think this way.
4) They do like to cuddle. However they reserve this for women that they are totally unconditionally, head over heels in love with. So if he wont cuddle, you’re not the one.
5) They have an addiction to love. However, it’s just like the addiction to drugs some people suffer from. In parts of Asia, they call it chasing the Dragon. It’s said that the very first hit a man takes of opium will give him the best high of his life. He’ll never ever get that same high again. People become addicted because they continue attempting to replicate that first high. “Chasing the Dragon”, men do this with love. The first love they ever had gave them a euphoric feeling and they spend years trying to get that same feeling from their other relationships. Whats funny is, if that first relationship was so great, why did they let it go?
6) They really hate it when their equipment doesn’t work properly. Oh, and it’s really not our fault even though they may tell their friends you just weren’t sexy enough. Gotta save face somehow.
7) They only talk about sexual conquests that involve women they know they aren’t going to marry or be in a serious relationship with. It’s considered taboo for him to tell friends about how we perform if we are really his girlfriend. Not only that but if they want to keep us, that also entails keeping our private times private. So with that said, if you go out with a guy you just slept with as you attempt to start a relationship do not be alarmed if his friends make comments or snide remarks. That’s just their way of getting your attention so when you and he are done (which probably will be soon) they are in position to see if you’re a good as he says.
8) They support one another. If he is at a club and he ask you to dance and you turn him down, when he return to the table where his friends are they’ll make him feel better. Usually this is accomplished by saying the following: Man, that bitch is fat anyway! Or, You know she’ gay, right?
9) Most of them that joke about sex all the time, it’s generally because either they aren't getting any, or in some cases they wouldn’t know what to do if the opportunity presented itself. The guy who wouldn’t know what to do, you can easily spot him. He’s the one who always has something sexual to say to you every time you pass him in a bar or club. He’s always with his male support group and when you walk by he’ll say something like, ” Can I get fries with that shake?” At which time his friends will laugh and it leaves you fuming. You can easily turn the tables on him by simply doing this: Stop, walk back to him and tell him, ” Do you really want this? Let’s go right now, and you had better be good. Because if you waste my time and don’t please me, I promise I’ll come back to this place, stand on the bar and tell everyone here how lousy a fuck you were!” Trust me with that he’ll shut right up because he knows that the pressure you’ve just put on him will not allow him to perform anywhere near what he’d consider satisfactory even by his standards. He’ll never bother you again, except probably to apologize.
10) When they tell you on the phone or in conversation how good they are in bed and how they are going to make you orgasm over and over again and again. Don’t believe it, it’s a lie. Basically they do this just so they can paint that image in your head. By doing this chances are you’ll sleep with them to see if they really can please you continuously. However, they know they won’t and what they really want is to please themselves. If you give in and fall for this you’ll probably be highly disappointed in the sex and pissed at yourself for wasting your time.
Saturday, August 16, 2008
Friends With Benefits Puh lease!
The newest phase of men taking total advantage of women is called, “Friends with Benefits.” Sounds excellent on the surface but underneath it’s just another simple scam for getting what he wants without ever having to commit.
It’s one thing to go into this type of arrangement with a person you’ve never been in a romantic relationship with, it’s totally different when you accept these terms after breaking up with your ex.
If you’re a Medical student and you simply do not have the time for a relationship because of study and whatever, I can see this happening. Let’s face it, sometimes our studies, jobs and other environmental issues demand so much on our times it’s impossible to sustain a serious relationship. Not only is it almost impossible, it’s sometimes not fair to the person you might want to be in a relationship with. Hell, none of us want to be second to a job or studies. We all want to be first in the lives of the people we love and care for.
Under these circumstances I could understand having a friend with benefits. All women have needs, wants and desires and sometimes you have to go to drastic measure to insure these items are met. So if that means having a male that is a friend that takes care of your physical needs on occasion I truly understand. However, If I may impress upon you the importance of setting the boundaries of such a relationship from the beginning. Make sure you are completely honest with the person and remember that over time you will have to realign his expectations. Men, just as women do sometimes agree to certain terms and then over time their feelings and emotions take over and they expect you to understand and feel the same way. It happens.
Now, for those of you who have been made this offer from the guy you just broke up with. Please, let’s break it down to what your ex is really telling you and I think you’ll understand why this is loaded for his benefits and his alone and you my beautiful woman could be voted “Sucker of the Year” by men’s magazines.
You were in a relationship with a guy I’ll assume you were in love with, right. For whatever reason the relationship didn’t work out and I’m almost positive it was his idea to break up anyway. Otherwise he wouldn’t have the balls to even suggest something as utterly disrespectful as this.
Think about it, he probably holds all the cards. He knew that you liked him a hell of a lot more that he cared for you. So he thinks he’s doing you a favor by saying, “Hey, why don’t we just be friends with benefits?” In your mind you probably were thinking, it’ll keep you close to him and possibly he’ll change his mind and you two will be a pair again. Right? Wrong! If you agree to participate in this charade, what you just became was his designated piece of ass! On nights when he’s out with his friends trying to pick up other women to sleep with, in the event he strikes out you just gave him the right to call you to come and take care of his needs. Also, what you don’t know is, secretly you’re the butt of jokes to him and all of his friends. Are you OK with this revelation?
Lets examine this without any emotion and a whole lot of logic. This is a man that felt that you weren’t worthy enough to be his girlfriend, fiancee or future wife. However, he thinks that you are great in bed so he’ll allow you to share his bed with him on occasion. What’s wrong with this picture? You’re not good enough to be in a serious relationship but you can be his concubine.
We all know that (and most aren’t happy about it) that men can sleep with multiple women and be considered a stud, player, the man, a chick magnet and more. He’s applauded by his peers and for whatever reason considered a catch by uninformed women. However, on the other hand if you’re in a “friends with benefits” relationship (and I say that lightly because there is no friend actually in it) how many men do you think will be attempting to take you out? Real men I mean, not other dogs as the guy you let talk you into this ridiculous deal? Probably none, and this is why, because the one thing I’ve learned over the years is that most men whom could talk a woman into this kind of arrangement like to Bragg about their conquests. So chances are that all his friends and all their friends and probably girlfriends know that you agreed to something as simple minded and stupid as this. If you’re on a College Campus, everyone now knows about it. However after initially breaking up with him, or he you, had you simply went on your way and cut off ties to him within weeks men whom had been waiting for you to be single again would have been knocking down your door. Instead you’re the butt of jokes to everyone around.
So now, what do you think about that “Friends with Benefits offer?” Just like everything else, it’s not new, it was just renamed. It used to be called, “F*** Buddies” and that wasn’t a good arraangement for women either, but they fell for it time and time again. The funny thing though is whereas men can generally seperate love and sex, women have a hard time to seperating the two and hearin lies the problem. It’s just sex to him. After a few sessions it generally becomes love to you and that’s a very big problem, because he now controls your heart and emotions and when he doesn’t return that love you’ll be hurt.
One other thing before I go, any man that can talk you into such a ridiculous arrangement feels that he can talk you into anything and he may be right. Next it may be let’s make an adult video (I promise to erase it and no one will ever see it.), or let me take pictures of you nude. Then finally, he may drop the big one on you and ask if you’ll sleep with his roommate. Why not, he’s already shown you that he has no respect for you and by agreeing you have no respect for yourself. What do you think? Possible? I hope not.
So ladies, the next time some idiot offers you that friends with benefits package, not only should you decline but tell him to kiss your a** goodbye. Then seek out a real man and put that loser in the rear view mirror of your life. You’ll be happy you did.
It’s one thing to go into this type of arrangement with a person you’ve never been in a romantic relationship with, it’s totally different when you accept these terms after breaking up with your ex.
If you’re a Medical student and you simply do not have the time for a relationship because of study and whatever, I can see this happening. Let’s face it, sometimes our studies, jobs and other environmental issues demand so much on our times it’s impossible to sustain a serious relationship. Not only is it almost impossible, it’s sometimes not fair to the person you might want to be in a relationship with. Hell, none of us want to be second to a job or studies. We all want to be first in the lives of the people we love and care for.
Under these circumstances I could understand having a friend with benefits. All women have needs, wants and desires and sometimes you have to go to drastic measure to insure these items are met. So if that means having a male that is a friend that takes care of your physical needs on occasion I truly understand. However, If I may impress upon you the importance of setting the boundaries of such a relationship from the beginning. Make sure you are completely honest with the person and remember that over time you will have to realign his expectations. Men, just as women do sometimes agree to certain terms and then over time their feelings and emotions take over and they expect you to understand and feel the same way. It happens.
Now, for those of you who have been made this offer from the guy you just broke up with. Please, let’s break it down to what your ex is really telling you and I think you’ll understand why this is loaded for his benefits and his alone and you my beautiful woman could be voted “Sucker of the Year” by men’s magazines.
You were in a relationship with a guy I’ll assume you were in love with, right. For whatever reason the relationship didn’t work out and I’m almost positive it was his idea to break up anyway. Otherwise he wouldn’t have the balls to even suggest something as utterly disrespectful as this.
Think about it, he probably holds all the cards. He knew that you liked him a hell of a lot more that he cared for you. So he thinks he’s doing you a favor by saying, “Hey, why don’t we just be friends with benefits?” In your mind you probably were thinking, it’ll keep you close to him and possibly he’ll change his mind and you two will be a pair again. Right? Wrong! If you agree to participate in this charade, what you just became was his designated piece of ass! On nights when he’s out with his friends trying to pick up other women to sleep with, in the event he strikes out you just gave him the right to call you to come and take care of his needs. Also, what you don’t know is, secretly you’re the butt of jokes to him and all of his friends. Are you OK with this revelation?
Lets examine this without any emotion and a whole lot of logic. This is a man that felt that you weren’t worthy enough to be his girlfriend, fiancee or future wife. However, he thinks that you are great in bed so he’ll allow you to share his bed with him on occasion. What’s wrong with this picture? You’re not good enough to be in a serious relationship but you can be his concubine.
We all know that (and most aren’t happy about it) that men can sleep with multiple women and be considered a stud, player, the man, a chick magnet and more. He’s applauded by his peers and for whatever reason considered a catch by uninformed women. However, on the other hand if you’re in a “friends with benefits” relationship (and I say that lightly because there is no friend actually in it) how many men do you think will be attempting to take you out? Real men I mean, not other dogs as the guy you let talk you into this ridiculous deal? Probably none, and this is why, because the one thing I’ve learned over the years is that most men whom could talk a woman into this kind of arrangement like to Bragg about their conquests. So chances are that all his friends and all their friends and probably girlfriends know that you agreed to something as simple minded and stupid as this. If you’re on a College Campus, everyone now knows about it. However after initially breaking up with him, or he you, had you simply went on your way and cut off ties to him within weeks men whom had been waiting for you to be single again would have been knocking down your door. Instead you’re the butt of jokes to everyone around.
So now, what do you think about that “Friends with Benefits offer?” Just like everything else, it’s not new, it was just renamed. It used to be called, “F*** Buddies” and that wasn’t a good arraangement for women either, but they fell for it time and time again. The funny thing though is whereas men can generally seperate love and sex, women have a hard time to seperating the two and hearin lies the problem. It’s just sex to him. After a few sessions it generally becomes love to you and that’s a very big problem, because he now controls your heart and emotions and when he doesn’t return that love you’ll be hurt.
One other thing before I go, any man that can talk you into such a ridiculous arrangement feels that he can talk you into anything and he may be right. Next it may be let’s make an adult video (I promise to erase it and no one will ever see it.), or let me take pictures of you nude. Then finally, he may drop the big one on you and ask if you’ll sleep with his roommate. Why not, he’s already shown you that he has no respect for you and by agreeing you have no respect for yourself. What do you think? Possible? I hope not.
So ladies, the next time some idiot offers you that friends with benefits package, not only should you decline but tell him to kiss your a** goodbye. Then seek out a real man and put that loser in the rear view mirror of your life. You’ll be happy you did.
Groupies, Groupies, Groupies
Groupies Groupies Groupies. What is a groupie? Female groupies in particular have a long-standing reputation of being available sexually to celebrities, hip-hop stars, pop stars, rock stars and other public figures.
There are other male-dominated professions and occupations that attract groupies as well, such as law enforcement and firefighters (especially after9/11), the military (groupies are sometimes referred to as "Allotment Annies", "debs", "badge bunnies", camp followers, or EIBs Everyone In the Barracks), preachers and ministers. Even convicted criminals sometimes have followers. Hybristophilia is a paraphilia involving being sexually aroused or attracted to people who have committed an outrage or a gruesome crime. In popular culture, this phenomenon is also known as the Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome.
Remember when a lady named Doreen Lioy sent fan letters and fell in love with serial killer Richard Ramirez after he was convicted on 13 charges of murder. I mean come on. Doreen and Richard were married in California's San Quentin State Prison. Doreen even stated that she will commit suicide when RamÃrez is executed.
Carole Ann Boone married serial killer Ted Bundy during his murder trial. He was found guilty of 30 charges of murder, although the actual total of victims remains unknown. Estimates range from 29 to over 100. Ted proposed to former coworker Ann in the courtroom while questioning her on the stand. Following numerous conjugal visits between Ted and his new wife, Ann gave birth to a girl she named "Tina" in October 1982. I guess Ann got her mind right because eventually, she moved away, divorced Ted, and changed her last name and her daughter. Their current whereabouts are unknown. This may not be a true example of hybristophilia, as Ann professed a belief in Ted's innocence up until shortly before his execution, when he finally confessed to his crimes.
Rick James 1981 hit song "Superfreak" describes encounters with groupies whom he described as the "kind you don't take home to mother." Michael Jackson's 1988 single Dirty Diana, which got him to the world record of five number-one hit singles from one album, from his album "Bad", is about a female groupie called Diana who is pursuing him.
And you know I have to talk about Karrine Steffans who authored "Diary of a Video Vixen". The book detailed her liaisons with famous hip-hop stars and athletes as well as the time she spent as a video girl and groupie. Steffans is the voice of a new breed of groupies, those that work within the industry and enjoy its perks with gusto. On the Oprah Winfrey Show Karrine says the years she spent as a music video dancer taught her to value herself over money and fame. "I have me. I have God. I have my son. Everything else is extra," she says. "It's taught me who I am, and who I was meant to be.
"I am no longer in the business of making other people look good at my expense. And that's what I wish for the women who are in the industry." Karrine says she plans to tell her son the truth about her experiences so that he can learn the importance of treating all women with respect.
There are other male-dominated professions and occupations that attract groupies as well, such as law enforcement and firefighters (especially after9/11), the military (groupies are sometimes referred to as "Allotment Annies", "debs", "badge bunnies", camp followers, or EIBs Everyone In the Barracks), preachers and ministers. Even convicted criminals sometimes have followers. Hybristophilia is a paraphilia involving being sexually aroused or attracted to people who have committed an outrage or a gruesome crime. In popular culture, this phenomenon is also known as the Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome.
Remember when a lady named Doreen Lioy sent fan letters and fell in love with serial killer Richard Ramirez after he was convicted on 13 charges of murder. I mean come on. Doreen and Richard were married in California's San Quentin State Prison. Doreen even stated that she will commit suicide when RamÃrez is executed.
Carole Ann Boone married serial killer Ted Bundy during his murder trial. He was found guilty of 30 charges of murder, although the actual total of victims remains unknown. Estimates range from 29 to over 100. Ted proposed to former coworker Ann in the courtroom while questioning her on the stand. Following numerous conjugal visits between Ted and his new wife, Ann gave birth to a girl she named "Tina" in October 1982. I guess Ann got her mind right because eventually, she moved away, divorced Ted, and changed her last name and her daughter. Their current whereabouts are unknown. This may not be a true example of hybristophilia, as Ann professed a belief in Ted's innocence up until shortly before his execution, when he finally confessed to his crimes.
Rick James 1981 hit song "Superfreak" describes encounters with groupies whom he described as the "kind you don't take home to mother." Michael Jackson's 1988 single Dirty Diana, which got him to the world record of five number-one hit singles from one album, from his album "Bad", is about a female groupie called Diana who is pursuing him.
And you know I have to talk about Karrine Steffans who authored "Diary of a Video Vixen". The book detailed her liaisons with famous hip-hop stars and athletes as well as the time she spent as a video girl and groupie. Steffans is the voice of a new breed of groupies, those that work within the industry and enjoy its perks with gusto. On the Oprah Winfrey Show Karrine says the years she spent as a music video dancer taught her to value herself over money and fame. "I have me. I have God. I have my son. Everything else is extra," she says. "It's taught me who I am, and who I was meant to be.
"I am no longer in the business of making other people look good at my expense. And that's what I wish for the women who are in the industry." Karrine says she plans to tell her son the truth about her experiences so that he can learn the importance of treating all women with respect.
Partying with a Famous Rapper
Okay so I am at the club with my friend who happens to be a philly rapper and signed to a record label. I have nothing against groupies, I hate that it comes with a negative connotation. Long live the groupie. But punishing groupies must die! Just like this next story....
Rapper= RP (famous rapper from philly)
Groupie Slut = GS (annoying groupie)
So i'm chatting with RP and he was like oh nooooo save me... i'm like what? GS approaches.
GS: Hi do you remember me?
RP: Yes.
GS: Why didn't you call me?
RP: ummmmm.......
GS: I'm sorry for what happened...
RP: It's ok....
GS : Ok then.....
Gs turns away..... RP gives me the rundown, turns out GS has urinated while having an orgasm on him on a previous night. Come on, at least it wasn't the other way around!!!!
GS returns.....has a conversation with RP which I don't listen too and he tells me we should move on. Yeah ok, sounds good to me. I get a male friend to 'entertain' GS. Friend is very good at girls....... GS is very drunk.
After a brief interlude..... of normal happenings.
GS Returns (again) UGH!!!!!
GS: Why do you keep running away from me?
RP: um, because you said sorry, and I said it was ok and now I'm going to walk away.
GS: Shakes her head in disgust with the best negative pouty look I have seen in ages.........
We walk away. I cannot stop laughing. If I had urinated on a guy and saw him, I think I'd say sorry and not return. Some girls just do not get it. Especially persistent groupie sluts.
P.S. But like I said, I have no problems with groupies, only sluts.
Rapper= RP (famous rapper from philly)
Groupie Slut = GS (annoying groupie)
So i'm chatting with RP and he was like oh nooooo save me... i'm like what? GS approaches.
GS: Hi do you remember me?
RP: Yes.
GS: Why didn't you call me?
RP: ummmmm.......
GS: I'm sorry for what happened...
RP: It's ok....
GS : Ok then.....
Gs turns away..... RP gives me the rundown, turns out GS has urinated while having an orgasm on him on a previous night. Come on, at least it wasn't the other way around!!!!
GS returns.....has a conversation with RP which I don't listen too and he tells me we should move on. Yeah ok, sounds good to me. I get a male friend to 'entertain' GS. Friend is very good at girls....... GS is very drunk.
After a brief interlude..... of normal happenings.
GS Returns (again) UGH!!!!!
GS: Why do you keep running away from me?
RP: um, because you said sorry, and I said it was ok and now I'm going to walk away.
GS: Shakes her head in disgust with the best negative pouty look I have seen in ages.........
We walk away. I cannot stop laughing. If I had urinated on a guy and saw him, I think I'd say sorry and not return. Some girls just do not get it. Especially persistent groupie sluts.
P.S. But like I said, I have no problems with groupies, only sluts.
Ox from the movie Belly with DMX and Nas!
Okay will someone smack me cuz I don't know why I was even with this dude. I use to talk to him when I was about 15 years old and he was my old head. I mean his charm took away from his ugliness. lol. Anyway, I knew this motherfucker was ugly as shit but I just liked him at the time. So we lasted about 10 months and then broke up. Well I recently got back in contact with him and he is making my life a living disaster. He really changed. I mean either he changed or he was the same as he was when I was younger and back then I was just gullible and didn't notice. But this loser is an asshole. First off Belly was the shit back in 2001 but he still talking about it like he made the movie yesterday. He swear he getting money but he really isn't. I mean for a recent photo shoot for some movie that he suppose to sell to HBO he had to use his friend OG money for the damn photo
This nigga is broke as hell. Last time I was with him and he was sleep I snuck in his pockets and this nigga only had two hundred dollars in it. I took that, when he woke up he asked me where his money is and I told him that he was drunk and said that I could go shopping while he was sleep. He was so mad at me but oh fuckin well. Recently he told me that my best friend and some other females wanted to fuck him and then told them that I am stalking him but thats a damn lie. I don't need to stalk his loser ass. First off he don't know how to eat pussy and his dick game is horrible. I can't believe he going around telling girls that Reed Dollaz Condo is his and that he got all these movies coming out and shit. He even had me and Reed Dollaz shooting in a new movie called Dead Enemies but he really isn't sure if HBO is gonna buy it or not. Then when we was at the Upper Deck he gets on the mic and tell everyone that he wrote A Milli buy LiL Wayne. This Ox motherfucker is a liar and I would really like to see how his real teeth look under all that damn fake gold in his mouth. The nigga don't like to use condoms so watch out girls and for all the wrong doing he did I snitched on him to Reed Dollaz and now Reed Dollaz is my new boo.
Thanks Ox, cuz Reed Dollaz fucks me better...
This nigga is broke as hell. Last time I was with him and he was sleep I snuck in his pockets and this nigga only had two hundred dollars in it. I took that, when he woke up he asked me where his money is and I told him that he was drunk and said that I could go shopping while he was sleep. He was so mad at me but oh fuckin well. Recently he told me that my best friend and some other females wanted to fuck him and then told them that I am stalking him but thats a damn lie. I don't need to stalk his loser ass. First off he don't know how to eat pussy and his dick game is horrible. I can't believe he going around telling girls that Reed Dollaz Condo is his and that he got all these movies coming out and shit. He even had me and Reed Dollaz shooting in a new movie called Dead Enemies but he really isn't sure if HBO is gonna buy it or not. Then when we was at the Upper Deck he gets on the mic and tell everyone that he wrote A Milli buy LiL Wayne. This Ox motherfucker is a liar and I would really like to see how his real teeth look under all that damn fake gold in his mouth. The nigga don't like to use condoms so watch out girls and for all the wrong doing he did I snitched on him to Reed Dollaz and now Reed Dollaz is my new boo.
Thanks Ox, cuz Reed Dollaz fucks me better...
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